How to make friends in college: 10 tips for building real connections

For many students, college is the first time they’ve been in a completely new environment away from the routines, communities, and friendships they’ve known for years. That transition can be exciting, but it can also be isolating. If you're wondering how to start making friends in college, know this: it’s completely normal to feel uncertain, and you’re far from alone.

The good news? You’re at a place like the University of Cincinnati, where opportunities to meet people are built into nearly every part of the experience. With a little intentionality and the courage to step out of your comfort zone, real friendships are absolutely within reach.

Here are 10 ways to start making connections that feel genuine, not forced.

Friendships don’t have to begin with deep conversations. Sometimes, all it takes is a wave, a compliment or a quick, “Hey, what’s your major?” It might feel small, or even a little awkward, but those everyday moments are often how real connections begin. Most people are just waiting for someone else to break the ice.

Start here: Bearcats Welcome Events are full of opportunities to casually meet new people across campus.

If you live on campus, one of the simplest ways to meet people is by being approachable in your dorm. Keep your door open when you're hanging out inside, say hi in the hallway, introduce yourself to your neighbors, or join in on floor events.

Pro tip: Your Resident Advisor (RA) is not just there for room checks. They’re a great resource for helping you get involved and feel connected throughout your college journey.

One of the easiest ways to start making friends in college is by showing up where people with shared interests already are. Whether you’re into sustainability, esports, service work, or cultural identity, UC has a student organization that fits and joining one is a great way to meet people with similar passions.

Prefer bonding through movement? The Campus Recreation Center is another great way to meet people while staying active. Whether you join a group fitness class, sign up for an intramural sport, or just hit the gym regularly, you'll naturally start to recognize familiar faces and strike up conversation.

You’re already in class with people several times a week — use that to your advantage. Sit next to someone new, ask about the upcoming quiz, or start a study group. Those little academic conversations often lead to real friendships.

In large lectures, look for chances to chat during group work or breakout discussions. Don’t underestimate how many friendships start with “Want to study together?” 

Looking for extra support? UC offers free group review sessions and tutoring through the Learning Commons. It’s a great way to strengthen your academic skills and meet students in your classes who are just as motivated as you.

Yes, it can feel intimidating to walk into a campus event solo. But you’d be surprised how many others are doing the same. The first step is showing up.

Game nights, film screenings, and cultural festivals are great ways to meet people without pressure.

Start here: Student Activities Board hosts regular events throughout the year for all interests and class years.

Not living on campus? That doesn’t mean you’re left out of the social scene. Use downtime between classes to hang out in common areas, attend events that fit your schedule, and look for groups created specifically for students like you

Start here: Join the “Commuters of UC” GroupMe to connect with peers, ask questions, and find out what’s happening on campus even if you’re just popping in between classes.

Not every social invite will feel like your scene. But the more you say yes to group dinners, study sessions, or club meetings, the more opportunities you create for connection.

If partying isn’t your thing, you’re not alone. UC offers plenty of substance-free events and activities throughout the year, think movie nights, game tournaments, group fitness classes, and more, all designed to help you connect and have fun without the pressure to drink.

You might feel awkward. You might get rejected. That’s okay. College is a time of growth, and growth usually requires some discomfort. The more you practice putting yourself out there, the easier it becomes. ​​Stepping outside your comfort zone is tough, but it’s often where the best friendships begin. Not every conversation will click, and not every attempt will lead to a lasting bond. That’s okay.

Think of each interaction as practice. The more you do it, the easier it becomes and the more authentic your friendships will be.

You don’t need to change who you are to make friends in college. If you’re quieter, look for smaller gatherings or interest-based gatherings. If you’re more outgoing, larger events and leadership opportunities might be your sweet spot. 

At a big campus like UC, there’s room for all types of personalities and interests. Authenticity builds lasting connections faster than trying to fit in.

You might not find your best friends during your first week, or even your first semester. Real relationships take time, shared experiences, and consistency. Don’t be discouraged if your social life doesn’t feel perfect right away. Keep showing up, keep being open, and trust that the right connections will come with time.

Feeling isolated? UC offers support through Counseling & Psychological Services (CAPS), where you can access mental health resources and talk with professionals about adjusting to college life.

Making friends in college can be hard, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. Whether you meet someone in your dorm, your first-year seminar, or a student org that lights you up, remember that everyone is looking for connection. You don’t have to be the loudest in the room or attend every event to build meaningful friendships. You just have to start.

Still unsure on where to begin? Explore everything UC Campus Life has to offer: Get involved, meet new people, and build your Bearcats community — your way.